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Why Others Copies and Imitates You – Surprising Reasons

Why Others Copies and Imitates You - Surprising Reasons

Why Others Copies and Imitates You ? Here you can find some surprising reasons behind Why Others Copies and Imitates You. You may get irritated, because of this particular behavior exhibited by one of your friend, class mate or neighbor. There are some tips and ways to deal with Others Copies and Imitates You. Once you understood the reasons behind this act, you may feel surprised. So next time onward, when you feel other are acting and doing everything same of you, be proud of your self. 

In Psychology, Imitation is the partial or complete reproduction or performance of an act that is stimulated by the perception of a similar act by another animal or person. Imitation or copying behavior if clearly evident in humans and animals from the infancy itself. This process involves a model to which the attention and response of the imitator are directed.  Here below a girl describes her problems while her friend copies everything.  

“I have a friend, she copies all that I do. The way I walk, the way I speak, the way I sit, the way I write, the way I play with my pen while thinking, she will try and do it. She is even copy the way I stand! Seriously i am frustrated a lot. She always try to flirt with my boyfriend. When he approaches me she says to him “go away”. He doesn’t give her the attention, thank God.

She doing Like seriously as he is not my boyfriend. It’s really getting on my nerves and I can not withstand this. I mostly play with either my ears or the back of my hair out of boredom or concentration, she must do that also! I also play with my mouth and guess what… She does it too!!!! The list is endless. How on God’s earth am I suppose to tell this girl to layoff and stop copying me?”

Why Others Copies and Imitates You – Facts

Answer: You must understand, those who copy or imitate others have a serious underlying issue. This will be due to their family issues, poor self esteem, ego problems or even some mental problems. Insecurity is the first thing that comes to mind. If a person is enough secure and confident with their abilities, they will never copy you. If someone copy your ideas, thoughts and even personality, be proud because you are awesome person with such attracting personality and features.

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You wouldn’t need to copy others, if you are secure, self impressed and confident. Another notable and most found reason behind copying others is jealousy. Copying others is also a clear sign of jealousy. Those People, who don’t have a certain look, talent or idea will be so jealous of others. They will be never satisfied in anything they have. These people will try to take other’s successes and try to make them their own. It’s very pathetic in real life, upsetting and unfortunate. At the same time this is something that is hard to control.

Why Others Copies and Imitates You - Surprising Reasons

How to Deal with a Copycat Friend

  • Enjoy the Sincerest Form of Flattery: 

People suggests Imitation is sometimes, the Sincerest Form of Flattery. The best thing to do in this situation is to take the high road and take these situations as a compliment. You should be flattered when someone wants to be like you so much that they are copying you. 

  • Stop Thinking: 

First you have to stop thinking that, you are completely original, and one-of-a-kind. This is not mostly true, as there are other people who share our interests, big and small. We are also copycats at some point. You pick up certain things from others – like style inspiration.

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  • Be Proud:

Better than talking all these things to the person copy you, keep your mouth shut and learn to deal with the fact that you obviously have amazing taste. Be proud and confident on the other hand. Your copycat friend will eventually grow bored of you and start picking up inspiration elsewhere. But if some one adopted not only your hairstyle, but also your ex-boyfriend, career and life philosophy, then you may need step in. 

  • Try Some Change:

When someone copy everything you do and this irritates you like anything, switch it up. Simply try to take this as an opportunity to change things up a little’ This could be in your appearance, your hobbies or your coffee shop haunt. Buy doing this you will get new experiences out of it along the way.

  • Keep Things Within You:

If again and again she is picking your brain, and spouting off your opinions and passions as if they were her own, You should try keeping more to yourself. So don’t tell her your stance on an important issue, and conveniently keep her in the dark. 

  • Talk and Explore: 

If your friend continually copying you, talk to her personally to reveal reasons behind her insecurity. Being straight with her, and addressing the issue might help more. The key is to be gentle, but direct—in this situation. You can also help her to turn to magazines, TV, art and books to form her own set of thoughts and opinions.

How Do You Feel Others Copies and Imitates You?

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27 comments

  1. I don’t know where to begin. I have this problem and I am seriously affected by this. The advice on this article does not help. I have always been hated, but copied and imitated by girls. I feel that they envy me so much, that they would kill me if they could get away with it. I currently live in japan as an exchange student, with a roommate. The first few days I came here, I instantly gained immense attention from everyone. They surrounded me and questioned me. The foreign students of my class. Eventually it turned into hate, jealousy and imitation. Despite hating me, they want to do what I do and know everything about me. So they question me like they’re my mother. And follow my every move. And I cannot withstand this.
    The most horrible thing is living with a roommate. The 1st roommate, since she saw me, stared at me for hours, without taking her eyes off. I had to unpack my bags and change clothes while she was staring at me. This felt disgusting. And she eventually began mistreating me, smashing things inside the room, clicking tongue at me, and so on. I was heavily stressed and it showed physical symptoms. The japanese teachers took my situation as a joke and did not help. After so much effort, i got the roommate changed. Since the teachers understood that she was the one with unusual behavious, she got sent out of the room, despite me being the one who wanted to leave.
    Now, the roommate I have is a chinese girl 2 years older than me. At first things went fine. And then she began showing that same irritated behaviour. When I get dressed nice, she would slam doors and turn the lights off so I can’t see. She would ask me a chain of questions when where with whom and what for am I going out. And I asked her what her problem with me is, and she said, you’re too much. I asked her what she means by that, and she didn’t answer. Since then, despite being from an educated girl from a developed country, she had been imitating me. She eats what i eat. Drinks what I drink. Stares at my face while I sleep, wears and buys the same type of thing. And I have a habit of taking my waterproof phone inside the bathroom. To play music while I shower. She does the same. I sing. She sings. If I am interested in a guy. She wants to know everything. She wants to know and monitor my every action. And she stares at my nude body like a gross pedophile. And says wooooo, when I get dressed or undressed. Her friend makes an irritated face when she sees me, and a few others classmates imitates me as well. And one of them always comes and stands besides me, just to stare at me like a crazy bitch. Things have always been like this for me. I gain a lot of attention and hated no matter where I go. Relationships don’t go well for me for this very reason. And I was personally told by a japanese teacher (who bullies me), “you stand out too much, and it hurts other people’s feelings. Try not to stand out”. She openly discriminates against me, specially after I got the best grades in the class. All of this is immensly affecting me psychologically. There is so much I haven’t said here. And this is a serious issue, its driving me nuts. Currently I am trying to be more cold and distant with people to protect myself and my privacy.

    • This is the first time I’ve heard of a story like that. It’s really messed up, the way others coincidentally and constantly treat you. I mean “you stand out too much, try not to stand out?” PFFFT if that’s not considered utter BS, then lemme go reevaluate my life while eating a shoe. Now I’m an envious copycat, from my perspective whenever I copy someone I usually admire them and want to feel a tiny bit of whatever they did for myself, and whenever I’m enviously copying someone i hate, i’s usually mockery mixed with the former. A sort of “heh this idiot can do this, I probably can do better than them, in fact lemme do it right away!” or “they don’t deserve to create something this awesome, it’s MY aesthetic/identity & it’s what I do, why not me? I’m supposed to be the one creating it!” thing.Perhaps they felt that way towards you though I don’t know the exact reason on what drove them to do so. Maybe they’re being racist. Maybe you resemble someone quite hateful to them. Maybe they all collectively have an envy issue, their envy is so big that they all started acting irrational. Thankfully you’re only an exchange student, it’s all temporary. You really gotta get out of that toxic environment quickly. I pray you do.

      • You sound crazy. First you say that you have never heard of anything like that happening and then you admit that you do it yourself…..? If you are copying someone, especially someone that you openly dislike you look PATHETIC. Get your own life and stop trying harass people that are happy with theirs.

      • To anonymous, what I think you should do is to develop a thick skin. You have the right to live your life the way you want it. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life.And to even tell you, you stand out too much. They want you to be mediocre because they lack the drive to be better . They see that you have the momentum and since they don’t have it , they say to themselves, then we all won’t have it .so let’s set out to destroy her momentum or dive. They see their aspirations in you but they have never figured out a way to become those aspirations.And then they see someone who has managed to become what they admire and wants to be. Don’t listen to that tutor. If you do , you will end up mediocre and uninteresting like them. And they will laugh behind your back because they succeeded in telling you how to live your life and also to become shallow. Who the heck are they to tell you how to live your life. If you maintain your stance and ignore them, they will stop eventually and even come to respect and admire you. Im saying this from personal experience. DON’T CAVE IN. You only have one life , live it to the fullest!

        • That really helped. You intelligently phrased what I couldn’t put into words.

          But I have a mother who behaves this way and it really annoys the heck out of me.

          Great advice :). This is definitely a Life Lesson. Not let others dictate how we should live and hold our ground. Be who we want to be (regardless of what anybody else does or says).
          ¨
          Pure gold:

          “They see their aspirations in you but they have never figured out a way to become those aspirations.And then they see someone who has managed to become what they admire and wants to be.”

    • The same thing always happened to me in high school! At first I was super happy because for the first time I had a lot of friends and guys started taking interest in me. I have always tried to “be myself” and dress/ act for myself so sometimes I do things a little out of the norm. But I was picked on so bad in middle school and always tried to fit in with others but kept failing. By the time I reached HS I decided to just be happy with myself and if everyone hated it then “oh well”. But at first everyone really took a liking to me and I was pleasantly surprised. After a few years though, everybody started to turn on me. All of my friends started copying my style and actions but then would turn around and talk very badly about me behind my back. This devastated me. Guys would try to go out with me but I was never interested in anyone other than my boyfriend. They thought that this was unacceptable. Especially with one guy who thought he was in love with me. He would walk around crying about it and all of his friends would try to convince me to dump my bf to get with him. (Like I somehow owed him something. It didn’t matter what I wanted, but if he wanted me than I should drop my agenda and do what he wanted). This all made my self esteem plummet once again and made me severely depressed. I completely stopped even trying to have friends after a while and everything I truly was started to disappear. I felt like what is the point of trying to be anything if I have to be this lonely. I gave up and became a shell of myself. Don’t let this happen to you, please, its not worth it. Just get away from this toxic environment. I now think that the girls (friends) I had were threatened by me or jealous. Even though I would never try and steal anyone’s guy, I can get my own if I want. Its a shame because I am a loyal friend and really loved them very much. The guys that were always harassing me I think just saw me as a trophy and our society (in the U.S.) displays women as rewards. When guys don’t always get their way they get angry. Not every guy is like this, but many I have encountered are. Don’t let these awful people dictate your personality. That being said, maybe you are presenting yourself in a way that you are giving off the wrong impression. If you are dressing/acting provocatively in front of other women’s guys then they are going to get aggressive because they feel threatened. If you are being respectable of others and they are still copying/attacking you than they are just jealous so ignore them as much as possible. Same thing with guys, try to make sure you aren’t being too flirty, they have a real hard time trying to figure out if you are into them sometimes and then they will act like jerks towards you when they misinterpret because their egos are hurt. Good luck, I hope this helps.

    • I have always disliked imitation. My answer is discuss with the person how important it is to be different. We all have different finger prints dna and such for some important reason. Plus life would be boring if we were all the same.

    • That anger thing with girls happens to me so often. I think it’s because most girls are immature and followers. They are used to doing what other girls do and taking orders, like little girls. Few girls are independent and mature. Immature girls crave the spotlight always and immediately get jealous and venemous when someone takes it away. They are not happy within themselves. Continue to stay away from them, find the mature girls that celebrate your uniqueness and specialness. Stay away from girls that copy you because they are freaks.
      You’ll have fewer friends, but they’ll be better than the brats.
      🙂

  2. Please advise…I am a gay..I love my straight friend all about me. He said his male friends and girl friend cheated him.He want me to be with him but no help or good word from him. Now he is trying to be smarter than me. Kind of imitation. What is his problem.Is he love me.Is he a gay or bi? I know that he had similar kind of lifestyle before means..we were bought up only at home..kind of introvert

  3. My boyfriend copied my moans during sex…when we first started dating I noticed that he would copy little things; like if I joked around and made a “cute” high pitched noise, he would tell me it was adorable and make the same noise. That never really bothered me, a lot of people do that. Even I imitate something if I think it’s funny or cute sometimes. But then for the first time he copied my moans exactly, and not just once but repeatedly throughout the entire session. I never thought much of his imitations, but to be honest that kind of freaked me out. When I told him he was copying me he claimed he had no idea he was doing that…is he like psychotic???

  4. I have/had many people throughout my life who have copied and imitated me. Some even being so hateful to the point of spreading lies and trying to defame what was going on in my life. In high school I’ve had this friend who tried mirroring everything I did; the way I looked, the way I spoke, the way I dressed, my hobbies, and so on…I never understood why she would behave the way she was nor did I ever have the urge to confront her, I was just confused as all I could be. My last straw with her was when I realized she envied everything about me to where she out in the open started a comparison game to our peers. She ended up buying the same exact lip gloss as I had, demanded that I put it on as she did, she grabbed my arm and had us approach this guy we both knew and she asked, “Whose lips are bigger? Mine or hers?” He looked at her really weirded out and said, “Honestly, Jessa’s are.” She looked at me with a really irate look and walked away with her nose up. She was so fond of my looks and upset with hers was the way I took it from then. She’d comment on how much bigger my eyes were then hers and how my eyelashes were so full and thick and so on. She started reading off my MySpace page back then and calling out my hobbies and interests as hers out in the open to our peers. It wasn’t until then I put my foot down and had become so annoyed that I discontinued our friendship. That is not the end of my high school story. I’ve had family members that have tried tearing my life apart. I come from a large family where members close to my age basically had never left high school. In my generation, I was the only girl to graduate with a High School Diploma. I had a cousin however, during high school who had paired up with the friend who mirrored me and they together turned my life into a living hell in school. Once I put my foot down and got out of the friendship my cousin paired up with her and they together started spreading lies about me and made sure no peer of mine, grade 7-12 could ever like me. I was the “girl with no friends” the “girl no one likes” the “loner and loser”. I had never felt so hated in my life and for no real reason. All lies and no honesty were put to my image and this was the power a former friend and a cousin, a family member for crying out loud had against me. Despite the depression and extreme social anxiety I’ve came to know from the bullying they together caused, I pushed myself to graduate school. I may have left high school and met the love of my life shortly after but the cousin who had caused so much tremoil toward me continued her acts of defamation toward me. I graduated and my parents were so proud of me, these were some of the happiest moments in my life. How could anyone else not be happy for me? I graduated and many people were congratulating me on social media. Shortly after all the congrats toward me my cousin posted a false certificate saying that she graduated and now had a nurse aide certificate and she took the “light” from her false post so everyone was then happy for her “success”. My fiancé, now husband, back then had proposed to me and we planned a small wedding with close family and friends. Old friends started slander of me as well as my cousin. My husband and I married and soon came the day we announced we were expecting a little one. My father had given us a home to live in, it was just we had to fix it up a little. The WHOLE family instead of being happy for us and supporting our new life together grew angry and harassed us for years to come. The cousin from high school just as she spread lies then she spread lies saying I had cheated on my husband when I never had and he knew that because we were with each other 24/7, she couldn’t stand everything nice going on in my life and I take it she tried ruining my husband and I’s relationship. The sad part about the cousin is that she cheated many times on her now husband before she moved in with him at the time of them just dating and tried wiping her dirty fingers on me and pointing them at me. The harassment from family went as far to been threatened to be killed. The saddest part was instead of the community getting to know my husband and I as a newly wed couple, they only knew us as the lies and rumors my family had spread during the feuds. To this day I still hurt from everything that has happened. I had never received an apology from anyone who contributed to the harassments and bullying. If they could have just been fond and happy for the happy moments in my life that would have been ideal…why do people have to go so far in life to get others down?

  5. I’ve been the target of a copycat for over 20 years. Change my style? How is letting this person remove me from who I am and the things I like to wear, do, eat, say, etc going to help either one of us? Allowing someone to take over my personality, claim it as their own, and drive me to abandon who I am would be the ultimate personal fail and a total assertion of false justification to the offender. try to keep things within you. That is the only effective tactic in neutralizing a copycat if you plan to keep them in your life, as they can’t imitate what they aren’t privy to. Obviously, the most effective way to rid yourself of the constant annoyance is to sever ties with the person and remove them from your life. They have serious psychological issues that require more than just a heart-to-heart talk. I am considering a full-scale intervention with other people close to the person and am scouring the net looking for useful information to apply with the group. Good luck to those who have this problem with someone you know.

  6. It’s jealousy-not flattery. Can’t think for themselves. Like what you have and want credit for it like it was theirs. That’s it.

    • Although it may not feel like flattery, in a way it is. They had to do something unoriginal, something you did first and foremost. Why? Because they want to compete, to get a sense of accomplishment, but why through you when there are so many other things you can accomplish? Because they have their eyes on you, they are taken back.

  7. I’m not sure if this behavior ever changes or gets better. I have a younger sister who was like this. She copied everything about my life from my boyfriends to their nations of origin to my career choices to my choice of city to settle in. The clone xeroxed everything until I finally began revealing less to her. She then picked a fight with me over the phone while I was on a trip overseas to basically wish my death on my next plane trip. She’s now spreading rumors about me and trying to turn the family against me. I work in Hollywood and am kind of the Michael Jackson of the family. The sibling is the LaToya. I’m burned out and over it. No further contact. My advice to everyone with a friend or family member like this, endlessly copying and trying to one-up everything that you do, is that it isn’t your fault and you can’t change them. It isn’t flattery or admiration: IT’S ENVY. Back slowly away like you would from bees. This sister is now dead to me.

  8. My copycat is my male roommate. I’m a grown woman and I’m constantly mimicked. It’s really irritating and I don’t know how to ask him politely to knock it off. He sits like me, he tries to outdo me in the kitchen making meals, like it’s a competition. He thinks all of my spare time should be spent with him. I’m suffocating and frustrated with this situation

  9. I planned a party and right after my friend planned one a week before. Often when I see her she makes faces at me or ignores me. She’s nice and social sometimes. But I’m tired of her bullying me. Having a party before me is the last straw. I unfriendly her on Facebook (again) and I changed my rsvp to No for her party. When she texts me trying to apologize for her behavior (like she’s done before) I’ll tell her she has issues and she’s not invited to my party. Girls often copy me, gossip about me, and tell me off. I think it’s because I’m independent and mature and most girls act like little girls and follow the crowd. They have no original thought or courage. People are followers nowadays, and very competitive.
    I’m sad because I have few friends, because most girls are like this and when we have a falling out the other girls follow them.
    But it’s more worth it to me to have friends I like that respect me, than many conniving friends.

  10. I have a “friend” with no clue of what “personal boundaries” means
    I could deal with it, I have dealt with it for several years now, but for a few months she’s started copying me, like my hairstyle and haircolor, and choice of decor in the bathroom. Naturally seeing photos posted of that made me feel creeped out. Tbh I felt violated. Anyways since I didn’t want to see her looking like a bad copy of me I got a haircut and dyed my hair. It took about five days and then I could see her in that color as well.
    Since I never hang out with her IRL anymore she must’ve seen my change posted in FB.
    don’t know how she manages it. I’ve put her number on auto-block list on my phone so she stops bugging me, she can call 10-20 times a day if I don’t answer.
    I’ve talked to get before regarding her not giving me enough space but it apparently fell on dead ears as it went back to the same routine after maybe 2 weeks. So she obviously doesn’t respect me, or are just too selfcentered to take my feelings into consideration.
    is she doing this now because I won’t have any contact with her ?
    Is this just me overreacting ? Perhaps. Impersonation may be flattery but I still don’t think this is acceptable behavior.

  11. Wow not just me! Sad but reassuring. Also extremely hard is to never react, ignore, move as far away from them as possible and don’t have them in your life at all – “friend” or family, as hard as it may seem.

    It is jealousy.
    It is a sign of flattery, imitation.

    This has happened go me all my life and a wise person told me this: better to be different than to be the same. You’re an idol, a star, a celebrity. Have that mindset because their goal is to break and reduce you to punish you for not being scared of being confident in your unique self.

    And by no means change yourself. They have psychological issues and sadly in this world evil gets away with a lot. Well, so they think.

    Most importantly these people may try to copy you but you still have the advantage because they can never be you! Even when they try to copy your mannerisms, your looks etc, theyll never be able to recreate the essence of you. 2 people can wearing the exact same outfit yet look completely different. You’re not a one of a kind, you’re a one and only.

    So rest assured that they will always be severely unhappy. Especially if you ignore them. Trust me it’s hard but they’ll get bored eventually, although they’ll probably up their game to a severe level in frustration for some time. These people are a dime a dozen I’m still trying to follow my advice but jeous bullies can be your biggest motivators of success.

    Remember they have psychological issues and the pain the direct towards you is a million fold the pain they feel for hatred towards themselves.

  12. I always gathered it was a compliment, but found it odd that a grown person would go out of their way to imitate another individual. Like, are we all living in a big endless HighSchool? It puzzles me why anyone would copy another, although it is understandable that sometimes without thinking we naturally do, which is another story. One scenerio in my case was when I eloped with my ex two/three years back. It was funny how some of his female friends complained about it endlessly, yet those same ones literally snatched the first man *they could,* and ran down the aisle a few months later wtf. Trying to prove something? What a pitty. My friends do normally dig my sense of style, looks or hair (small things) which is normally fine. Unless they are obvious about certain things and then proceed to show envy followed by copying then that’s when I have a problem and I normally call them out or give it to them through a subliminal message. But the whole marriage deal still baffels me, what a joke.

  13. Ugh, my cousin also copies my own gestures and even my music taste. What should I do. He gets angry if I told him that he is irritating af.

  14. there’s this young lady who recently came to live with me. She mimic’s everything single thimg about me, everything. She started buying clothes like mine. every color lipstick I like wearing suddenly she likes wearing it. My title has been queen for many years. now she calls herself queen, buying things with queen written on it. whatever i say I like she likes. if I dislike something, she say she dislikes it. I’m a singe, I sing all the time. She ask me to teach her to sing because she loves to sing. Everytime i’m singing, she actually tries to sing the song, yet don’t know the lyrics or melody. I love blues and jazz, she said she do to. but don’t have a clue what it is. she eves drop on everything. she now address people the exact same way i do. But, She keeps rearranging things in my home the way she wants to.I have personal dainty cups on a paticular shelf. She brought herself personal dainty cups, one saying queen, pushed mine into the back of the cabinet and put hers in their place’s. with certain people I answere the phone saying “holla’. After asking her to come here one day, she came and replied “holla”. i asked her what does that mean, she said i don’t know. I told her “stop saying it then. At first I didn’t mind her mimicking me. But now I’m feeling she’s getting out of control, trying to replace me. I growing more aggitated and uneasy with her. on top of it all, she’s starting to do spiteful things. She’s borderline OCD with cleaning. Recently, after I scrubbed, bleached, and hosed down the garage. She hung a dity sopping wet mop in there which drained dirthy water onto the floor and into the entry mat. I’m becoming Leery.
    What’s your view of this woman?

  15. Avadora Mimouni

    Hello I’m a female in nyc and I have an Heterosexual male roommate, I been debating to move but my rent is very affordable. He copies everything I do including going to same gym and same stores for food , lately he buys same products and and foods , so o have switched it up , now he doesn’t have a job so he managed to be on the same schedule has me when it comes to shower , eat cook ….. this morning I see that now he has 2 cups for shakes like I do …. what should I do ?

  16. When I notice that people are imitating me I interpret it as bullying or intimitading me. I feel that they hate me or want to see me suffer. Flattery? I dont think so. It really bothers me and I do not know how else to cope with the feelings.

  17. I have a friend that has taken up the same hobby as me. At first I helped this friend, I thought what a cool thing to do together, but now it’s turned into a competitive annoyance.
    I feel so frustrated with it that I no longer want to continue with the hobby at all.
    Why did I get into this? I know have lots of equipment that I really can’t be a**** with.

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